“Here at Globo Gym we’re better than you. And we know it.”
~White Goodman, Dodgeball
After my lay-off, my first order of unemployed business, was to cryptically post my change of employment status across my social media accounts.
This, so that all of the people I don’t actually keep in touch with, could shower me with attention in the form of, “What happened!?” and “Are you going to be OK?”….because I didn’t get enough attention as a child, that’s why.
I’ll admit, I was genuinely touched by the number of people who offered to put me in touch with someone they knew who was hiring.
And, I was flattered when I began receiving regular phone calls and messages from hiring managers who said, “I see that you’re now available and I’d love to talk to you about an exciting opportunity at my company.” As though they had just been waiting for me, which was crap, but still, I ate that shit up. It’s nice to be wanted.
Of course, I then had to come clean and explain that I wasn’t actually looking for work. That I had other plans. To which they responded with, “Ok, deadbeat.”
Actually, no one said that, but it’s what I would have said.
After about a month or so, most of the calls and condolences dried up and I was busy moving on with my life.
Then, I got a message from an old high school acquaintance, via FB Messenger. It started out with, Hey girly!
Important side-note here. The only person who should address me with a “Hey girly” is a shirtless Ryan Gosling. He should be holding a skinny vanilla late and asking if I’d like to watch The Notebook. End, side-note.
Anyway, here’s the message:
By “page,” I can only assume she meant my Facebook page. So, I immediately went there to scrub out whatever might have led her to believe that I would be interested in being an online health and fitness coach.
Here’s the thing, I love to work out. A few years ago, I joined a women’s only fitness studio after spending years joining traditional gyms where I spent my time trying to look like I knew how to use the equipment, while trying to dodge the hardcore sales tactics of gym employees, while also trying not to lose a finger in all the gym equipment I didn’t know how to use.
I would go faithfully for approximately one month. Then, I would stop going, but continue to pay for my membership for at least a year before working up the guts to face the fifth layer of hell. Also known as….trying to cancel your gym membership.
Then, I got cancer and I had a baby….all at the same time….and I decided that my fitness goals were all wrong. For years, I had been studying the body parts of other women and wishing I could make them mine.
Come on fitness equipment machine! Give me JLo’s ass and abs….Jennifer Anniston’s arms….legs like Carrie Underwood!
And of course, it never worked.
So, after life smacked me in the face, I decided I should be grateful I still had a living body and perhaps I should just learn to work with it. I found my current gym and I love it. It’s small, with a variety of classes and a body positive message and I’ve seen great results.
I’ll never have a six-pack, because I refuse to make the dietary sacrifices it would require, but I’m fit and in far better shape at 38, than I ever was in my 20’s. Of course, in my 20’s, I lived off Ramen Noodles and the occasional, post closing time trip to Taco Bell, so….
My point….I love to work out, but a scroll through my Facebook page would lead most to believe I hate it….when I even mention it all. In the beginning, I checked-in for my daily 5:30am workout’s. I mean, I’m working out at 5:30am! Praise me!
But for the most part, my posts were snarky and complaint-like, because obviously, I was being forced into working out. And eventually, it got old, for all involved. (Read: I no longer needed the praise and validation of Facebook).
So, I couldn’t figure out exactly what she was seeing that would lead her to believe I would make a good fitness coach. I decided to just ignore the message and hope she’d go away.
Two days later:
Argh! So, I responded with what I thought was a polite no.
The irony of my misspelling “jam-packed” as “ham-packed,” is not lost on me.
And I wasn’t lying about the work thing. For years, my husband and I had been talking about starting a small business. When I learned my job was going to be eliminated, it seemed as good a time as any to give it a go. So yeah, I’m busy. But apparently, that wasn’t the right answer.
Seriously? Is it me, or are there a lot of assumptions being made here?
1. We feel exactly the same way.
Nope, Sarah. I don’t think we do. I feel like YOU are sort of a self-righteous asshole, if you want to know the truth.
2. That when I’m sitting on the couch watching my favorite show, I’m wasting my time.
I am fairly certain that the good doctors of Grey Sloan Memorial Hospital have earned my undivided attention. It’s thanks to them that I am so confident at making self-diagnoses.
And, I’ll have you know that sometimes, my computer is present. How else am I supposed to further research the historical figures portrayed in Victoria, or collect screen grabs from various segments of This Old House?
I’m exercising my mind, Sarah!
3. That I have debt to pay off and cannot take care of my children.
I was raised to believe two things: That I wouldn’t amount to anything and that it was rude to discuss politics, religion and money, uninvited.
4. That I have any desire to understand your business.
Sarah, Sarah, Sarah….I think YOU are selling people a load of crap.
Here, drink this shake! Work out to the same series of video’s that’ll only cost you $19.99 a month for infinity months. And be sure you buy the $400 worth of cheap, shitty fitness equipment you could pick up for $20 at Target. The pounds will melt away and you’ll get a daily inspirational message from me to keep you going!
In a word. No.
I’m not a healthcare professional and I’m certainly not an authority on diet or exercise.
Earlier this week, I ate a great breakfast consisting of an egg white, on some kind of fancy-pants Whole Foods bread, topped with Avocado and a small dish of strawberries.
Yesterday, I ate an entire bag of dill pickle potato chips and a roll of fruit Mento’s. What about that says, “This person is totally qualified to give diet advice.”
And sure, I can be all Rah, Rah! You can do it!
But, I don’t actually know if some stranger I’ve never met, CAN do it. Maybe there’s a health or mental issue that needs to be addressed, so that I don’t rah, rah some poor woman into cardiac arrest, or a nervous breakdown.
Isn’t that sort of why actual trainers become certified?
I know someone who has PH.D in exercise! It’s called something else, I just don’t know how to spell it, but she’s legit. I am not. I’m in no way qualified to determine whether this crap is the right program for anyone.
And really? How is it possible that you are properly supervising 515 other so called “Health and Fitness Coaches?” It sounds to me like you are just sitting on-top of some kind of Ponzi-Scheme.
5. That I did not notice that the only thing you talked about was YOURSELF.
I spend a lot of time at the gym. The various fitness instructors I work out with, all talk about how much they love helping people. None of them, talk about how much money they are making off of them.
In fact, most come directly from their full time day jobs and they just teach classes on the side. While we work out, they correct my form, they know what exercises to modify in order to accommodate physical limitations. They know the names of the muscles I’m working and they know if my aches and pains are just a product of being sore, or a possible sign of injury.
I’m sure the extra money is nice, but I know what an instructor makes per class at my gym and it’s not enough to retire at 40 and then continue to work their day job just for shits and giggles.
So again, thanks but no thanks, Sarah.
And yes, I know exactly where to find you. On social media:
Posing in a sports bra and yoga pants for before and after photo’s that always look suspiciously staged.
Snapping a selfie with your logo’d plastic bottle full of whatever that shake is.
And in the video’s with the hashtag, what’s your excuse that showcase your workout routine while your kids crawl all over the place in the background.
But trust me, I won’t be looking anytime soon.